Away from Home and Kids
Separation of the parents from the kids has never been an easy thing. The time factor does not really matter, what matters a lot is the fact that you are not close to each other. The feeling of the kid being left by the parent is mutual. Most of the times you can do nothing about it, but with the following tips, you can make those trips less stressful for your family. It is quite important to know the right moment to break the news to your child about leaving. The age of the child and his temperament should guide you. Preschoolers and toddlers don’t figure out the concept of time and even some lower primary kids find it hard to differentiate days from weeks. Hence, you can tell the child within a few time span. Since older kids don’t rely much on their parents, they are less vulnerable to the traveling parents as compared to younger kids. However, once you realize that you have to leave instantly, ensure that you let your child know immediately and stay as calm as possible.
It is good to give the details of your whereabouts. The child should most importantly know when you will be back. For young kids, they may not figure out the months, weeks or days of the week as they appear on the calendar. By use of location maps and photos, you can disclose to the child where you will be. Older kids can find out from the internet or from the map by themselves. It is crucial to assure your child that you will keep in touch and know their status while you are away. You can also further let them know where they will stay for the time you will be away. Ensure that the kids keep to the normal routine as much as they do in other times. If you are privileged to have a babysitter, let her know the instructions and the feeding schedules that should be followed strictly.
By so doing, you will reduce the separation anxiety. You can consider videotaping yourself as you read a goodnight message to the child so that the kid can always play the video before drifting into sleep. Some of the harsh goodbyes that can do more harm than good include sneaking away, acting anxiously, prolonging the departure or even showing how guilt you are. Daily check-in and chats can make your child less stressful and also giving her time to voice her concerns if any and discuss. However, you should not allow persistent calling or nagging as it can make it hard for you to attend to the responsibilities that took you away there. Ensure you trust whoever you left to handle situation at home. Creating time for you and your kid is crucial as you make her feel good and loved.